Thoughts about life

I am feeling a little uneasy. Maybe I have done a little too much this week and need some time alone. I am feeling a little agitated I suppose. I have to see how I can relax today. It seems like a good day to go for a walk or to go cycling through nature. Maybe I’ll go to salsa this evening.

I just feel like reading my book. My book is really sad though. The girl is being bullied by her classmates. Her mom died and her father spends most of his time with his plants. The person interested in her is her aunt but she came out of nowhere into her life. The girl showed no interest in her aunt and was a bit apprehensive but she seems to slowly bond with her. The book is also about love and war and a lot about plants. I am also looking forward to choosing another book but I will finish this one first. It’s called ‘The island of the missing trees’. It is filled with mystery and a lot of superstitions.

I wish I wouldn’t get so angry about religion. It can feel like they are judging me or my family or friends or even that I haven’t prayed enough for my mom in order for her to live. I find it a hard pill to swallow. The other day two religious people knocked on my door and asked me if I was interested in the bible. I raised my voice. It was a Friday just like this Friday and it had been a busy week and I felt agitated at that moment.

I was very angry. I told them it was fine that they were religious but that they shouldn’t impose their beliefs and that they were now standing on my doorstep. I said I didn’t do that either. I think that partly I shouldn’t judge myself as much and just believe that I couldn’t have helped my mom in any way and that God or religious people have nothing to do with that. That they should just live their life with their religion and I without any religion. It’s just that it hurts so much to know that there are other people out there who are judging me for my actions and my choices and my beliefs and maybe I am doing exactly the same. I am judging them for believing in something that to me is untrue and judging them for wanting to spread this news to others. I am judging them for judging others. Maybe I am no better. I believe that people who are gay or who have had an abortion can have a hard time with the church. Religious people can be against these things and that automatically causes a rift. But not every religious person judges gay people or people who had an abortion. And not every non-religious person judges people who believe in God.

There are a lot of people who believe in a certain God. I have always rationalised this with the idea that people want to feel safe and cared for. But in the way that God is represented with all of these rules and judgements isn’t love to me. Empathy and forgiveness is love to me. Loving everyone. No matter what. That is love to me. It is not easy to love someone no matter what and to forgive someone. I suppose there are boundaries and within these boundaries sometimes you lose contact and sometimes love can still exists. Sometimes you find each other again even if there is a rift. But I do not believe in a hell. I think that kind of punishment just absolutely goes way too far. I haven’t met people that I think belong in hell. Not even people who have treated me really badly. Even for them, there is empathy. I can feel their loneliness and hopelessness and the actions that come with that which are hurtful to others. Their actions should change but that doesn’t mean they should burn eternally. It is so extreme. For someone like Hitler who has hurt many people, isn’t there a much more suitable way to handle a person with his kind of actions? A way to talk to someone and to understand someone and to get someone on the ‘right’ path. A loving path. Or is this idealistic? But burning eternally isn’t that just too much? I do not believe such a thing exist. Or just being punished eternally. I do understand the pain of people who have lost loved ones because of Hitler or who hate him and would like to see him burn. But eternally? Do they want to hate him eternally? That costs a lot of energy. Isn’t there anything in between? Something like a certain way of being able to relieve this pain and a way of dealing with someone who has hurt others?

I am not sure what the antidote to pain is but maybe it is something like forgiveness or acceptance. Maybe it is love. Maybe the world is just not always a wonderful and loving place and is heartbreak and death and war part of it. Maybe it is just something I should accept. I wish I could always be in this mindset that is loving, forgiving and accepting. But if the world doesn’t work that way maybe it is unrealistic for me too. It is something to strive for though. To be loving, kind, empathetic, giving, nurturing understanding, accepting, forgiving and that all with boundaries I suppose. As long as you give what you can give and it doesn’t hurt you, it is fine.

I believe that when you die that you are gone. I do think that people are that special unfortunately and that there is a place in heaven for us. We lose our loved ones and we miss them so much but we don’t get the chance to reunite with them. Dead is dead and gone is gone. To me there is life and new life on this earth and I hope that this life will continue and even if this planet dies, I hope there will be life on another planet. I just don’t believe that there is a place in heaven or hell dependent on my actions or dependent on anybody else’s actions. I just wonder what happens to any other living thing on earth then. To animals who rape and fuck animals that are dead and animals that kill other animals. Just like ourselves since we eat animals. There might be no consequences to certain behaviour. Maybe there is no such thing as karma. But maybe the things that you radiate do come back to you. Moods are reflected by others. My conscience is quite strong and if I feel like I’ve done something wrong I’ll punish myself in my head for years – this is why forgiveness and unconditional love is so important – but maybe not everyone does this and karma doesn’t exist and God doesn’t exist – to me – but I do believe that what you radiate can come back to you in the way that if you help someone, they might help you and if you smile, someone might smile back. This effect can ripple all the way through to people and other living things you don’t even know.

There is one other thing I don’t understand and that is why people can think so human-centered. As if animals were made for us by God. I think that is setting yourself above everything else whilst I think everyone knows that we are dependent on trees to be able to breathe. I just don’t think we are that special. Humans aren’t that special. We are just part of this earth. But maybe others just feel safe believing there is this kind of figure that is above everything else for mankind and made the animals for humans and that there is order and safety in that way. How do they believe in that same safety if there are things such as floods, orphans, wars, violence within marriages, uncared children, fires and so on? God has mysterious ways? Is that the answer? But that means nothing to me. But everyone can believe in what they want to believe and if someone wants to believe in an order where everything was made for humans, then that is the way it is. It is probably a belief where everything is tailored to mankind but it feels like you are forgetting then how interconnected we are and how dependent we are on other living things. But maybe that is just an assumption.

I do believe that things such as wars will always exist. People trying to see how far their power stretches. Maybe that is part of life too. All these painful things. I am more interested in understanding these things rather than judging them. Why is there war? For power and to gain more. Is that a desire that everyone has? Some more than others. Some go to war whereas others avoid it. Some believe in harmony and others want to get ahead in life by hurting others. Maybe it will hurt themselves in the end since what you radiate comes back to you. You can call that karma if you like but I just believe in reflection in a way and also in unfortunate events. Not everything that happens to you is because you did something great or bad. There is something like unfortunate events or luck. Chance you could call it or just the way things go. But I do believe that your smile can cause someone else to smile.

How do humans differ from animals? Apparently, humans are higher up in the food chain and we can restrain ourselves from certain desires and we have things such as rationality and will. But who is to say animals don’t? I believe they can have empathy and that they grieve and maybe they sometimes do things that are better for them rather than listening to their desires. I am not sure and I am no biologist. Maybe humans do have this interesting brain that is is able to rationalise and people can restrain themselves from certain actions whereas animals can’t but I am not sure about this. Maybe they do have these alarms that go off in their head and they adjust their behaviour accordingly and maybe they have very different behaviour. Maybe it also depends on which animal. Maybe it is something that is not black and white.

I just know that people designed weapons that make us safe from lions and bears. This is why we are not chased but that we chase. Humans can communicate via messages on a screen or a telephone and animals can’t. But I do believe that humans are animals. I do believe humans will die someday and maybe another animal will take over the top of the food chain. I just don’t think humans are that special. Or more special than anything else living on earth. I believe we should appreciate nature, animals and humans – which are animals to me as well -. It is life in all kinds of forms. Interconnected and since we are distanced from nature in our houses we might forget how interconnected we actually are. I am not saying that people who believe in God do not appreciate nature. I just made assumptions and interpretations after a conversation that made it clear that God made animals for humans. To me, it seemed like animals were less than humans and I just think we are interconnected and that that aspect should be highlighted. And that animals can’t be judged by God for their actions because how are they supposed to know about God and adjust their behaviour according to him which makes me believe less in God. As if humans should live according to a certain set of rules and are otherwise punished eternally and animals are made for humans and can live freely. I just do not understand that. Yet. Maybe someone can explain this to me. But what I do believe is that we need nature and I hope nature needs us.

How does nature need us? Since we barely fertilize our ground with our poop and our water is cleaned just to reuse for ourselves. Our water is running out in fact. Maybe we are a natural enemy to other animals that keeps everything in balance? A natural enemy to each other that helps to keep the population in balance? But we are I think overpopulated. Are we? In what way? That we are killing this earth by polluting it? How are we contributing then? That is an interesting question. Maybe that I am planting a lot of plants that allows bees to live from the flowers is a way of contributing.

I saw a very interesting Ted Talk on buying new stuff. Our stuff ends up at the shore of Bali. It clutters up this beautiful shore. People buy the newest phone and several pairs of shoes. I don’t buy a lot of things but I, unfortunately, do end up with things I do not use sometimes. It’s clutter to me and otherwise could be useful to someone else. But a lot of the clothes we give away end up in piles in Africa to be lit. Big piles of clothes on fire. It is a capitalistic way of living that hurts everyone. I will try to adjust my buying habits even more and I do like things such as ‘eBay’ and in the Netherlands, we have ‘Marktplaats’. It helps to get rid of stuff you can’t use that can be useful to someone else. Secondhand shops do the same of course. We are producing a lot more things than we actually need. It was an eye-opener to me that Ted Talk. Luckily I don’t buy that many clothes and I will try to stay that way as much as possible. I let my clothes be repaired and I invest in my local shop that way.

There is so much to think about in this life. So much that I don’t know. So much to consider. To realise that life might not be fair but that it is still worthwhile to do your best to try and smile at others and be loving. I hope I didn’t offend anyone with this post but you can see it as an investigation into life. Wondering what life is to me and hoping that I am still trying to understand someone else’s perspective. And that others might view life differently and I hope I can still be open to all kinds of perspectives and try to understand why others think differently. And at the same time, I am trying to figure out what I want my life to look like.

I hope you are discovering life just like I am and that you can smile. I hope you are having a good time wherever you are and until next time! X

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